I had an abortion in 2008 aged 31. I was married and had an 11 yr old daughter.
My husband and I had recently been made redundant and were struggling to pay back our debts. I was looking for work when I discovered I was pregnant. It was the worst possible timing. Not only did we not have the…
An amazing blog, just started, in which Irish women give their accounts of having an abortion. Extremely important right now in Ireland as women who have experienced abortions are being excluded from the debate on abortion. It’s vital that these women have a voice and that people listen. Anyone who’s Irish or living in Ireland with a story to tell, please consider submitting your story.
Support a Sex Worker and Rape Survivor’s Legal Battle - please reblog and spread far and wide!
I’m Ruby - a sex worker of 7 years from Melbourne. I’ve been involved with Vixen as well as organising the inaugural Festival of Sex Work.
About 3 years ago I was raped by a serial ugly mug. Due to his history I decided to report it to the police. The committal hearing happened in 2012 and the trial commences in July and will go for a week and a half. I will be cross examined for 1 - 2 days.
Knowing how difficult it was for me to make it through the committal hearing and to recover afterwards, I have scheduled a month off work. This will allow me time to get through the trial itself and to take care of myself afterwards.
Emergency money that I had set aside was recently eaten up by having to move house in circumstances that were out of my hands. I decided to work very hard after moving house to get the money together. Unfortunately I have been struggling emotionally as the trial approaches (particularly since my rapist’s legal team applied to subpoena my therapist’s notes about me), making it too hard to work as much as I need to.
I do not want to get a loan if I can help it, as this whole process as well as the rape itself has already had a big impact on my life financially - not to mention the cost to my physical and emotional health. I also applied for interim financial assistance from the Victim’s of Crime Tribunal. They denied my application for very whorephobic reasons. By their logic, because I continue to do sex work they do not believe that the assault must have had much of an impact on my life, if at all. If I was sexually assaulted at an office job, no one would question it’s impact on my life if I decided to keep that job afterwards!
I’m usually not very good at asking for help and take great pride in being as self-sufficient, resourceful and independent as possible. But given the trying circumstances, I am calling on all the help that I need right now.
It will take a massive weight off my mind in the lead up to the trial if I know that my expenses will be covered during that period. At this stage I have enough money to cover my rent during that month off. But not for groceries, bills, petrol, medication and those basic day-to-day expenses. My weekly medical bills are high due to complex mental and physical health issues (I suffer from depression and fibromyalgia) - so it’s really important that I can continue to see my psychologist and physiotherapist regularly during this time, as well as my psychiatrist.
To take a month off I will need $3300 to cover these expenses. Any contribution you can make will mean the world to me, and help me in my fight to force someone with a history of violence against sex workers to be accountable for his actions.
If I happen to be lucky enough to exceed my target for this fundraising campaign, all additional donations will go to Melbourne’s Centre Against Sexual Assault - who have been an incredibly supportive organisation to me since the day I decided to report the assault.
So Tits and Sass is doing a theme on reviews and hobbyists—anyone interested (or know anyone interested) in doing a longer essay on the topic, or a short 2 paragraph POV piece? This is a good way for everyone to promote good sex worker writers they know of who for whatever reason haven’t gotten their work out there yet. Also a good ready made topic if you’ve been meaning to submit to TAS, but haven’t figured out what to write about yet.
I should say I’m angry about people and their reaction to and view of sex work today, but mostly, I’m just angry.
I’ve seen a few posts going around Tumblr where sex work is on the periphery of the post.
For example: There’s a very handsome man talking about how he loves his wife, health,…
Speaking as a non-sex worker, I just want to say that it’s spaces like Sex Workers Problems that have helped change my mind and attitude towards sex workers and sex work. And I have seen people I’ve talked to about this stuff slowly change their attitude too. I know that’s not good enough, but I just wanted to thank you and everyone who speaks about their experiences because it’s made me a better person and it is making a difference, however small.
Without the internet and blogs like this, I still wouldn’t have had a clue.
I don’t think we’ll ever rid the earth of horrible stupid people who make life hard for people they don’t understand or respect, but the more people band together, the better able we are to protect each other and shut the *ssholes up.
The questions you ask are very important. It’s not my place to answer them I know, but I will say that these online spaces have informed how I act and speak in the real world, and will continue to do so. Thank you.
This has been the soundtrack for two months. Looking so much forward to take it easier, get enough sleep and remember to eat! Aaaahhh!
Yes! as much sleep and food as you can! <3